Visiting a Shiva House

Visiting a Shiva House

It is a mitzvah to visit a house of mourning during Shiva. We visit to offer friendship and sympathy to the mourner. It is customary to say to the mourners: Ha-Makom ye-nachem etchem be-toch she’ar avelay Tziyon vi-Yerushala’yim. May the Lord comfort you together with all mourners of Zion and Jerusalem.”

Who observes Shiva?

Children, siblings, parents, and spouse.

When does Shiva begin?

Immediately after the burial for seven days.

What is the Meal of Condolence?

The first meal eaten upon return from the cemetery, prepared by friends.

What should I do when making a Shiva call?

  • Give the mourner a hug
  • Listen carefully to what the mourner says
  • Share a personal memory about the person who died
  • Participate in the minyan
  • Be mindful of an appropriate level of decorum

For additional information about attending a funeral or Shiva, please contact one of our funeral directors or family service counselors at (847) 255-3520.

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